Shadow Seductress Dating Safety Guide

Ladies, I care about each one of you, and although being in a hypergamous relationship is our goal, don’t risk your life for it. Your safety is not worth a handbag.
I have compiled a list of important things to do while dating hypergamously to protect yourselves. Make sure you have this post saved, you never know when it’ll come in handy and share it with your bestie.

DO NOT MEET SOMEONE IN PERSON UNTIL YOU HAVE VETTED THEM! PERIOD. I don’t know why I have to outline the obvious, but some of you are so desperate for a quick fix that you would risk your wellbeing for a Louis bag! Before you meet someone, make sure you do EXTENSIVE homework on who they are. This means if you cannot write me a good paragraph about who he is/his background before meeting, then you need to get more information.

Do not be shy to ask men questions to be able to vet their identity. I tell men all the time, “I don’t feel comfortable meeting just yet… I would feel more comfortable if I could confirm your identity prior to the first date”, then I list out ways this can be confirmed. Social media pages, occupation information, and pre-meeting phone calls are all good ways to do this!

A high value man wants a woman to be protected. He will have no problem easing your concerns.

Have a Burner Phone. Ladies, this is a must! Get a prepaid phone for $30, and use that number when dating men. Whether a man approaches you in person or wants to transition from a dating app, GIVE THEM THIS NUMBER ONLY! 

By giving a man your real number, not only are you giving him easy access to contact you, but your number is tied to MANY things (Facebook, Snapchat, IG, public records). 

If you can’t get a burner phone for whatever reason, use Google Voice or a similar app that can give you a fake number for free.

Confirm their Employment Through Linkedin.
I love doing this for two reasons:

1. Most people will not take the time to fake a Linkedin account. The moment I find a man’s Linkedin, I know (professionally at least) he’s a real person, and probably not lying about his job. 

2. Estimate his income! When you are able to verify his job title, you can look into his possible salary range.

Invest in Self Defense. Whether its self defense lessons or carrying mace, ALWAYS be ready to defend yourself.

Use Your First Name ONLY, or an Alias.  If you’re using an alias, make sure its close to your first name (like a nickname) or your middle name. Never give out your full name.

Do Not Give a Man Access to Your Social Media. Unless a man connected with you through social media to begin with, DO NOT GIVE THESE MEN ACCESS TO YOUR PAGES. Not only will this tip protect you, but it aides in seduction by keeping you mysterious.  

No House Dates. Ladies, a man should not be coming into your home, and you should avoid going to his. I know with this pandemic men will try to justify having ‘home dates’. Do not fall for that nonsense. 
Most men who suggest a date in his home hope it will allow for easier access to sex. Not only is it low effort, but it is also potentially dangerous to you. Delay going to his house for as long as possible!

Do Not Risk Your Children. Okay, this one blows my mind. Ladies. DO NOT EXPOSE YOUR CHILDREN TO THESE MEN. He should not be meeting your children until the talk of marriage is on the table! Bringing random men in a child’s life is disruptive, and these men can be dangerous predators.
Don’t post your children on dating apps either. Why would you expose your child to these apps???

Have a Hypergamy Buddy. My younger sister is my partner in crime on my hypergamous journey. Whenever I am out with a man, she is ALWAYS tracking my location. She also has full details about him (his name, phone number, occupation, social media, and pictures). We also have a safety plan in place for her to call me at certain times in case she hasn’t heard from me. 

Having my biological sister as a fellow hypergamous woman has helped me tremendously. I realize this isn’t a luxury most hypergamous women have (especially with jealous women out there who may try to sabotage you). If you do not have a hypergamous buddy, I recommend telling a close friend that you’re going on a date with a man you met and you wish to share your location with her for safety reasons. You do not need to explain hypergamy to this friend, just let her believe it’s just a regular date and you’re concerned about safety. No need to give too much information.

Stay safe ladies ❤️